What would happens if your girlfriend or your boyfriend is trying to throw away your Kamen Rider Action Figures, Your collection of Anime Blu-Ray and any Manga Book into a trash because they want you to be grown up!

This is a What-If Situation and how would you feel about them trying to make you a mature adult

I won't let them control on what I enjoy. A real boyfriend/girlfriend/wife/husband should respect on what you enjoy and should not judge you for it. I rather be alone than be with someone who would not accept me for who I'm.

I'd dump them. If they can't respect my interests or who I am as a person then I have no time to waste on them. Maturity comes from your ability to react to and handle situations, not whether or not you have a collection of figures. I'd say throwing away somebody's stuff because you don't like it is far more immature than owning figures and manga.

Man, long distance relationships are the bomb diggity.

Well....
What those two said.

I can understand that if someone is a collector & it goes too far in being really expensive & having no space in their house then okay, definitely cut back & rethink how you handle it.

But that's not what this sounds like. This is control over another person because they either hate that person's interests or don't want to be seen or associated with that hobby because it makes them look bad. And that's no good at all.

I'm always worry about being stuck in the friend zone. It happens to me for the most time when I talk to girls. I either I get stuck in the friend zone or they turn me down badly.

My last relationship was two and half years ago with my girlfriend from Scotland. We dated for two months before she broke up for me for no reason around October 2013. She block me on Skype, on my phone, IMVU and E-mail. I remember in the morning that I told her on Skype that I would be running late because I need to run to the post office. When I came back home, she block me and didn't leave any message. I was so upset since then and I really like her too. I felt like that we got a long very well and we had a lot in common too. I never had much luck since then.

I think all the attempts someone makes at dating & relationships end up hurting them over the long run due to always coming up short. It's beyond frustrating when you wanna form a close connection with someone & you're met with nothing but rejection.

I'm not really sure how someone can deal with this, but with so many people in the world existing at once there are definitely those who have been through this as well. Hopefully comfort can come from those who are sympathetic & understanding or from knowing that you truly aren't alone in this.

I've never been close to having a girl I like wanting to be my friend, let alone be in a relationship with me. Not even with girls I'm not attracted too. So if my heart goes out to you guys & gals then so do lots of people, whether they post or not.

Here's the thing, you don't need to be in a relationship to be happy. There's so much pressure in society that you need to be with someone. You need to be married, etc. It's complete horse shit.

I'm going to be 31 later this year and being on my own, alone, is one of the greatest things ever. I do what I want when I want. No fights, no hassles, just me all the time.

But, I'm also a self centered asshole. So the majority of the population can't even tolerate me, let alone wanna date me.

I just started my night class today and I see a few girls that I find pretty cute looking in my class. I'm not very good at talking at girls and what I can do without coming creepy, awkward or lame?

Wow this thread is still a thing. This week loves to remind me of 2014. Im not the biggest expert in going up and talking to well anyone, but Id say maybe just ask them just their name? What they're into outside of class? Cant really speak much from expierence here co, good luck.

I did ask her name before, but I forgot. The other week, I said hi and comment on her drawing. I started stuttering when talking because I got so nervous. How can I talk to her more without feeling so shy? I don't want to make myself feel like a fool or creep.

Some advice from a girl here:

Basically, ban the thoughts of "I might make a fool out of myself" out of your head. The key to good conversation is a certain level of confidence. I know it's easier said than done, but if you're relaxed, you won't stutter.
As for the creep thing... well, as long as you have normal small talk, you probably won't have to worry about that either. Say hi when you see her, maybe ask her how she's been, about class (her opinion about topics from class, how she likes it so far blabla), if she's drawing, maybe comment on her drawings and say goodbye when you leave/she leaves, maybe wish her a nice day/week/holiday/ whatever the occasion. As long as you don't ask her super-private stuff and just talk about some nice superficial topics, that's about enough to get to know each other. Just don't try too much at once, that's basically it.

I was also kinda meh with small talk, but I'm much more open and talkative these days. If you meet people, say hi, how are you and then something that might fit the occasion. The more you do that, the more confidence and routine you'll get, no matter the gender. Girls don't bite ;)
It's a bit hard to step out of the comfort zone, but it will come naturally after a while.

In class yesterday, she had a cup with the anime "Free" on it and a Yokai Watch TV shirt. I was going to talk her and see what anime she likes, but I was so nervous to say anything. She was also texting during break, so I didn't want to come off rude or feel awkward. She has been sitting next to me since day one in class and I feel like I ruined my chance to talk to her :(.

You can do it Guyver I know its hard just say something like "Oh you like anime?" if you can't think of anything

Well I just want to come off as random or rude like if she drawing or texting.

If she does it all the time, then just go for it. Preferably when texting, otherwise she might get distracted and draw something wrong and get irritated

Also if I ask if you want to hang out sometimes, how can I do it without coming off as a date? I remember being told ask to hang out as friends first.

This is what I'm always freaked out about when I want to try to ask a girl out. I now women are generally bugged a lot more by creepy dudes because... reasons... so I generally try to avoid that. To the point of not even trying to ask them out because I dont want to come off as a creep.

My advice: just go for it, maybe have other friends invited to make it seem less date-y. I did that!






Though the person I did that to doesn't like girls Q.Q

^ This.
Just make sure you actually manage to speak to her a couple of times before that, because hanging out with a person you know nothing about is super-awkward :lol

But you should really polish your self-esteem a bit. She's not gonna hate you if you say hi and ask her what anime she likes, especially when you note that she has anime-related stuff with her. You're not some random guy walking up to her on the street, you sit next to her in class! It's only natural to get to know people you see a lot. And just because you don't talk to her one time, it doesn't mean you can never talk to her when you're still in the same class sitting next to each other. If you overthink stuff like that, you're only gonna make it more complicated for yourself.

Most people enjoy being greeted and asked some nice, basic questions from classmates and co-workers. So casual chatting really is too much for you as of now, then as I said, say hi when she comes in/ you come to class and bye when she leaves/ you leave. There's really not much to it.

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I took your advice that you guys give me for my class and it work well today. We had fun talking to each other and she was really nice too. We only talk during on our 10 minute break in class (She came in late when class first started). She was like "Great seeing you too. I can't wait to see you next week in class".

Not sure what to do know now? I would like to hang out with her and get to know her better. But I don't want to screw up.

Basically, keep talking for a while and when you feel more confident casually ask her to grab drinner after class or so (at a super-casual, non-datey place, McDonald's or something)?

There's a cute girl I've been hanging out with lately, she's cool, sweet and part of a friend group that I talk with a lot. But she's straight Q.Q

Aww, man, that must be tough :/

That's what I plan on doing. I talk to her today and I got to know her better. I did felt a bit nervous, but it was still a lot of fun.

... So... I think I'm slowly becoming a successful Tinder user.

How is that working? I have had zero luck with OKCupid or anything like that.

And the girl I really like all ready has a boyfriend.

I'm awkward as #@$%, but it's not too bad. You just gotta believe in yourself and message first.

I'm awkward as applesauce too lol. What do you message?

I'd try that.

But I'm like you, KRX, in the "refuse to show my face" aspect. Only unlike you, I don't have the desire to even tease with masks.

Generally I just say hi. Ask them about something interesting I read on their profile.

Oh, I show my face on Tinder. I even posted a YouTube video with my face in it on Wednesay. I'd put it here, but it's political, so.

I just don't like prospects of putting my face online to any degree. Which kills my dating pool options sadly.

I've gotten a lot more lax about it.

Online dating never seem to work for me. I always guess is that most people probably find me ugly looking. As far I know that no girl ever had any type of crush on me, otherwise they would have ask me out in the past.

I admit that my self esteem is not that great. I'm always shy around other people and fear that they will judge me the wrong away. I remember I would try to talk to people casually and they would get angry at me for no reason.

Yeah, it's always rough trying to remember how "normies" think and respond to things. Applies to both neuro-typical folks and non-geeks. Just remember the mantra, they're not out to get you.

My ex's family is still convinced I'm an atheist because of stuff like that, which I find hilarious. Wrong, but hilarious.

My ex boyfriend thought we were back together for a while. I need help! He's nice but I don't want to be in another long distance relationship again

Just say no to him politely?