Which is why my one goal when i enter uni is to get a Girlfriend.

Oh of course, but if the sex ain't healthy, the relationship ain't healthy. At least from all of my experiences, and with talking to my friends and so on. Most people who say otherwise, also from my experiences, either wanna look good, or have just never had a good sex life.

I went to Uni with a girlfriend, which was a bad fucking idea. Rebounded in my second year. Then lived a single life for my third.

I'd rather have someone who I can connect with on a personal level than on a physical level. Yes, it might be an indicator of a good relationship, but I'd like to find someone who, not only cares for me, but I care for her. The kind of person I'd be willing to sit through a terrible movie for if it would make her feel better.

But those are just my romantic views.

*Shrugs* It's entirely possible.

Yeah but I can do that shit with my friends already, and there should be a difference between your best friend and your partner, even if your partner is one of your best friends as well.

Well, yeah, there should be differences, and I would do that for most of my friends, but I think the main difference is how you feel. Yes, I care for my friends and cherish them all, but it's not the kind of love I associate with the romantic side of things. Now, I probably don't know what the romantic kind feels like, (although I have had this strange, but pleasant, feeling in my chest when I think about certain things related to a person,) but I think you get the point.

To be fair, I don't think I've ever loved anyone, beyond family. And even then.

My ex ex, who I moved in with and I was with her for years, was someone I claimed to 'love' but it was my first serious relationship, built on a bed of teenage hormones and a deep personal tragedy so of course everything felt big and end of the world like, but I was also way too naive and innocent to feel love at that point. I laugh in the face of people who are like sixteen and claim to love someone, they probably don't even know what a pulled muscle feels like yet.

You can only truly comprehend what love is, when you've been with enough people, something else a lot of people who want to look noble won't admit.

That's why I'm unsure about myself romantically. I'm a young person, with hormones flying around all over the place, so what I might call love might be nothing at all.

I think for teenagers, dating could potential fuck up your maturity and mental growth. Sure, you gain experience of learning what kind of people you are interested in but I don't think a huge thing like dating is good for teenagers who are also trying to find out who they are. Of course, if you start having sex in high school, you're likely to become what I like to call a "One Night stander", someone who has the ideas that love is about the physical relationship and not the emotional one.

Now I'm not saying every teenager is going to have sex with every relativity hot person in their gender of interest but I guess this is why I don't deal with complex issues like this.

I have no girlfriend and I don't plan to get one anytime soon, although I do want to get skinnier so I am ready. I don't know what I expect out of a relationship, what I actually get, what she wants or what will happen when we break up. I'm more unprepared then anything. I guess couples find personailities similar to each other as a few of my female friends have boyfriends that are also my friends too and they both seem like good fits. One of my female friends is upbeat and quirky and into sports and the guy she is dating is moderately upbeat and quirky not as often.

So I am at square zero. Any beginning pointers?

I choose not to date because it's against my religious beliefs. It does seem enjoyable, but I'd much rather have a long-term commitment like marriage and get it right the first time, so I can wait until I'm ready (which I have estimated to be about 25 years of age). A lot of people find this strange, but I've made my choice.

Befriend them, and care about them. Make a connection, and communicate effectively. Don't forget to think with your mind as well as your heart.

If anybody wants to PM me some personal issues. I'm always an ear. I have four years experience and a PHD in being awesome.

Well, I am officially friendzoned guys. She friggin waits all week, gets my hopes up. Then texts me an hour ago.... 4 HOURS BEFORE Im goin to go pick her up. She says she forgot that she was staying at a friends house tonight. Then when I ask her about rescheduling until next week, thats when she says she doesnt want just the two of us to hang out. Itll feel like a date. THATS THE REASON I DID THIS AND I THOUGHT I MIGHT ACTUALLY HAVE A CHANCE HERE!!! Well there goes that. I give up. Screw it. I know hell by tommorrow Ill be back to tryin but son of a bitch. Just friggin tell me if you dont wanna "go out" dont get my damn hopes up all week.

Sorry man. Hope you feel better soon

Time to slap on a rubber, find a dirty girl and a dirtier bathroom stall and then get back out there.

Dude, he's a minor!

But that sucks, man. The only advice I can give you is to stay out of the dating scene for a while.

I am now.

Locke.... I like your thinking. :lol

Oh Im now where Im still pissed off at what happened, but Im also at the point where I REALLY dont give a shit when I see her tomorrow, Im just ignore the hell out of everyone. :lol So back to plan, whatever the hell I was at!

Though I completely understand the need to be with another person. However, unless she shows the proper indication that she is into you. I wouldn't try. You should be building rapport with the person before you are ensnaring the person in your trap.

Damn, bro. That sucks. We've all been there.

But you have the right attitude -- gotta get back on the proverbial horse (or the Cyclone if you prefer a Kamen Rider reference). Play it cool. Engage with the ladies and be yourself. Use the advice we've given you. Breathe and Just Relax ;).

And never forget the old adage of Bros Before Ho's -- don't get so caught up in your quest for the fairer sex that you forget about the power of fraternity.

Thanks guys, I am at the point now I dont give a shit about pursuing her for anything, if she is gonna pull this shit, I honestly dont care. Hell with a couple of the stuff she had texted me about, her sister told me she lied about! So screw that.

Ill just stay single rest of the year, no point goin through that drama BS my senior year. :lol

I'm just glad you're not dwelling on it. Relationship drama is a long, downward spiral.

Anyway, I got my girl(boy)friend to say she loved me again. Over the past week, she was feeling depressed and felt our long distance relationship was failing, but now she's feeling better, so now I'm happy :D

Hurrah!

Now, if only I could afford to move her out of Canada to here...

Girl I like, she's adorable. Heart skips when she speaks adorable >_<. Tried flirting last night, not sure if super effective, but she did smile ^_^

You can do it, OOO. Just takes time and patience.

And force! Be brave! Don't stop flirting!

zactly, unless you're good about tricking them to just hook up with you.

meet people... duh

i dunno man, from what i've read she doesn't sound like a bad guy to me. if anything, she probably thinks you're creepy weird and wants people around to double check your social normalcy. so just keep being friends and if something happens, something happens... but man... you can't blame her for not feeling the same way you do.

Here's a good proverb to live by:

A relationship is like a seed. If you do not nurture it enough, it shrivels up and dies. If you accelerate it's growth to quickly, it develops problems. But if you give it the proper amount of nourishment, space, and time, it will grow into something beautiful.

Cheesy? Yes. Effective? Yes. I learned that today the easy way: by knowing of other people who learned it the hard way.

I dont blame her for not feelin the same way. :eyebrow I was just upset at the bullshit she pulled by sayin she would, then a week later literally hours beforehand, pullin a lameass excuse and lying to me in the process. I dont give a shit what she thinks of me now, that bridge is currently on fire.

This girl I like is just...perfect. She sings, she's in the theater department too, she LOVES nerdy things, and she's so freaking adorable! GAH! I can't handle the cuteness. Call me a cardiologist! Thing is, all the guys she's been with before were ones who f'ed up their relationship, so she's not looking for anyone right now. But I still want to prove to her that there is one nice guy out there!...even if technically he's standing in front of her :lol

Good luck my friend. I wish you the best of luck in succeeding where I have failed. :lol

Thanks bud. Just gotta keep up what I'm doing to make her smile >_<

Might I suggest putting your father in our Lady Candilira :D

:eyebrow you mean "faith" Sentai? :lol

Uh...my dad is the only one of his 8 siblings to not screw up his relationship in anyway and remain happily married to my mom for 26 years, so no...I'm not gonna put my dad in Canderrilla :lol

This sounds like it's gonna end up in a strange sitcom scenario.

"He's a nerdy Japan loving fanboy. She's a nerdy theater girl whose not looking for love. When the two combine, hijinks on a giant nerdtastic scale ensue. Coming soon from CBS: Nerd Meets Girl."

I'm a theater student too, that's why I'm excited about her :lol

Made my crush something to eat for lunch (cause I've been worried about her exhausting herself, since we both work for the theater immediately after class, and then she has her own rehearsals from 10:30PM to 12AM), but then she wouldn't take it :(. My friend assured me though that she'll understand why I made it eventually.

Don't give up! Just keep extending that hand! (Yes, I've been watching more OOO Again. Leave me be!)

She ended up coming up to me and took the sandwich. I hope she liked it >_<