… That was beautiful. A sad kind of beautiful.

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You've made me cry Algo...damn you and your beautiful story!

Need a tissue?

*Sniffle* Hai.

Here have some.
It's a good thing I always carry a few.

So a girl randomly added me on Facebook, asked if I'd ever be interested in a long distance relationship, and then gave me her number before signing off.

Da fuck?

Either a prank or for real. Hope its the latter, good luck my friend!

It actually does turn out she's fake :lol An acquaintance of mine who I guess she added went on her profile and pretty much said "Just another fake profile." That, and I guess she had a 1,000 + friends, but now has 20.

Catfish just got caught, cooked, and eaten.

What is that term? :eyebrow Ive heard it and heard of the show, but Im stumped on what it means.

Just got a message that the Disney trip tomorrow is canceled and my crush is upset. I hope she is alright :(

Call her, find out, comfort her. Go go *Shoos*

I can't. She has my number, but I don't have hers. Our friend told me what she said.

I think it would be best to give her some space. This happened to two friends of mine; they started a relationship, but one of them didn't give the other the space they needed. Love is like a plant—neglect it, and it will shrivel and die; over-nurture it, and it will wilt and die; but provide it with the perfect balance, and it will flower into something beautiful.

Indeed.
You have really good intentions, but given that she felt uncomfortable with your hug, and that you worry a lot about her, I'd say it's best if you give her some space.

Based on what you have said about her previous relationship, chances are she doesn't feel comfortable with closeness right now.

Like KRX said balance is the key.

See, I'm more worried about her because of how much she was looking forward to this trip. Just yesterday we figured out how we would all be able to go, and since we've both been working since September and just got free, I was hoping she could finally be able to relax and at least not be stressed out. I'm more worried about her than I am about my chances of getting with her, I want her to smile, even if I'm not the reason.

Perfectly understandable and noble.

Can't you guys make the trip at a later date?

That's what makes you a good guy, OOO. The only thing you can do then is wait and see. Much as that sucks.

It would have to be a way later date, since everybody who was going to go is going with me to Comikaze on the 2nd, and I don't know if she is.

I really hope she is alright.

Even if they could, her stress would still need an outlet.

I don't think there's much you can do here, KamenRiderOOO. You could gather together a group of friends, making sure to include her, and do a small activity together, (e.g. watch a movie,) but this is something she needs to deal with her own way.

… But you were already given this advice. Curse my slow typing speed.

She will be. Have faith, my son.

This... is so cute!
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A group activity to cheer her up sounds good to me. Even though closeness might be a bit much for her, I think it's always good to show that you care about her whithout making it awkward somehow.

I'm sure it'll be fine, just don't give up hope. I'll cheer for you! \(^-^)/

Thanks you two.

So got an update from friends, the trip is still on, but my crush can't go. So when they asked if I would go, I said:

"I can't enjoy myself if she isn't. I know how stressed she was, I was hoping this trip would be her chance to relax and have fun. But if she can't, I don't feel right going."

Man, you really do care about her if she doesnt feel the same way, hope this works out for you man!

Well, after beginning long thought sessions about my life starting many months back, I believe I have come to a realization I'm sure I've known for a long time. That realization being that...I do believe I may be in love with my best female friend.

I've known her since I was in second grade, and we've stayed pretty good friends over the years. She's been the girl that I've had the healthiest relationship as far as friendship goes with a girl wise, she's the one I trust more then anybody.

I remember in sixth grade, I asked her to a dance yet, and me being my Autistic non social self, just sat in the bleachers talking with friends. She came up to me at one point and asked if I was going to hang out with her, and then asked if I liked her. I forget what my answer was in all honesty.

Plus, we've always kinda have acted as each other's personal therapist and cheerer upper. If I was feeling down, she'd talk to me, and being that she knows I have my oddities, she'd even council me on the spot. Heck, when I was younger and was crying at school once because someone took a drawing I worked really hard on, she pretty much sat down next to me and rubbed my back and shit to help me out.

I think the final nail in the coffin in coming to this realization was when I read 5 Centimeters Per Second, and connected so much with pretty much every character. I stayed up late into the night thinking of what I wanted in a relationship, and she quite honestly kept coming into my mind repeatedly. So it's safe to say that I feel beyond close to her, and have some genuine feelings for her.

Only problem is, to my knowledge, she's still engaged, and if she isn't, is dating somebody else. Plus, I remember one time we were talking about dating and shit. I brought up that there aren't many a girls I would immediately jump into a relationship with, but there were quite a few I'd take out on dates. She asked if she was one and I said yes. When I asked if I'd be somebody she'd date, she said not really.

It's slightly saddening to me that I'm unsure of what he status is, and if I feel comfortable with these feelings. I'd easily consider her my best overall friend. For example, she'll do a shit ton of posts on Facebook that's pretty much always how she wants people to respect her, and how she feels that a lot of the guys she's been with treat her like shit. I read those and I immediately just wanna be like "They may be shit, but I'm not," and stuff along those lines. But I never do.

I'm certain she doesn't know this is how I honestly feel, and if she does, she nevers brings it up. I'm at a point in my life when I'm growing rapidly as a person, and I'm at the point to where even though I'm 18, I reflect on my life to see what I should have done, what I shouldn't have done, mistakes, and everything in between. One thing that I always think about is being in a relationship. I'm the type of person who loves having somebody with me, it helps me get through this shithole called life. And a relationship and love is the ultimate form of that. I just, I just want somebody to be with me. I need someone to walk through life with me. And she is honestly somebody who I'd really want to follow me through this road. But I don't know what to do. I don't wanna stay quiet, but part of me wants to since I'm not sure about what is happening with her. I don't wanna go into a relationship and get hurt again (I've been hurt, no fucking killed in relationships before). I just don't know what the fuck to do. And it's painful not knowing.

What do you guys think? I would really appreciate some outside thoughts.

That sounds a lot like the relationship between me and my best friend.

Really, I think the best thing you can do is be open with her. Tell her how you think you feel (the "think" part is important). Here's how I would phrase it:

"I want you to know that I really value our friendship. But I'm beginning to think I value it beyond friendship…"

That is by no means perfect, but it's a base. If she denies you, or asks for time to think, give her some space for a bit. Let her collect her feelings without your influence for a few days.

Honestly guys, after the drama me and my best friend went through due to my feelings for her and her desire to stay friends, I'm not gonna go after her any more so that way, I don't lose my best friend. Plus, after we sang Jason Mraz and Colbie Caillat's "Lucky" together and she still didn't react on that, that's why if I am called a girl's best friend, I won't go for her :lol.

Well, besides that, I know who my crush likes...and it isn't me. In fact, it's the guy I knew she would like. But until she acts on those feelings, I'll try my hardest to make her smile in the mean time, cause as long as she's smiling, that makes me happy.

Funny, I went through the same thing when I was 18.

I have no advice though. KRX's plan seems solid.

I feel sorry for you guys because I went through similar events too and going through something similar now too. My love life has been messed up for the last 6 years and I still get confused. However, I believe good things will come, so just stay positive and I hope everything works out for the best.

Could I get some help on this one?

For the past two years, I've been questioning my feelings towards my best friend. It used to be that I could say with 100% certainty that I only thought of her as a friend.

Then, in 7th Grade, I had a dream.

In this dream, I was in a room that was a bit like a mall, except everything was gray and all of the racks and shelves were empty, forming a labyrinth. There were two other people in this dream: my at-the-time crush, and my best friend (who was only my friend at the time). I was following my ATTC through this labyrinth. However, I made a turn at one point, away from her, and found my best friend walking toward me, smiling.

Upon reflection, I noticed that it was after this event that people began shipping the two of us together. The most famous case of this was my 8th Grade Literacy Block teacher. She was convinced that, at the very least, I had a crush on my best friend. It used to be that I would imagine my ATTC as the person that I would marry. Now, however, my mind defaults to my best friend.

The parts of my day that I look forward to the most are when I can see her. Whenever I'm talking to myself, I always pretend that I'm actually talking to her. I want her to be happy, and I try to seize every opportunity that I can to at least get a chuckle out of her. I know that I can count on her to lift my spirits whenever my family puts me down in the dumps.

And yet, despite all of this, all of the motivations, thoughts, emotiions, actions, despite all of this…

I'm not sure whether I love her as anything more than a friend.

I can understand the reasons for why—my religion won't allow me to pursue anything beyond friendship with her, I'm a chemical target-practice range known as a teenager, and I don't have a basis for what true love is. Nevertheless, I'm asking you what you think. I could really use a little human guidance on this one.

There is marriage (but let's not turn this into religious discussion) but I know that isn't an option. In my past experiences, confessing my love was pointless for that very reason. Ok, so they know...I can't act on it (unless I were willing to break my religion's rules, which I'm not), so what's the point? I've gotten to the point in my life, where I'm single, and I'm ok with that. Do I want to get married and have a family? Heck yeah I do! but I'm not ready for that yet. Once I know I'm ready, I'll start looking for a relationship, which would hopefully lead to a happy marriage. I didn't help, did I?

Well why does your religion stop you from pursuing anything beyond friendship? Also honestly figuring out if your in love or in love with the idea of being love are two very different things. The best thing you can do right now is just be her friend and hopefully something will help you figure this out. I know this might not be the best advice but I hope it helps somehow.

One just isn't allowed a girlfriend/boyfriend. Marriage is allowed. I'm no expert, and I don't want to get banned for discussing religion, so I won't elaborate.

Ah okay, I won't go into it either, just curious.

Well, I just sent the girl I was talking about a message about my feelings. Disappointment probably incoming.

At the very least, you have more guts than I do. I'm so secretive about my feelings, I keep them from myself sometimes.

Who knows what will happen though. When she replied and we talked for abit, she told me how she wants somebody to support her financially, has her standards, and says what happens just depends (she did not say what it depends on). So at the moment, I'm still blind, just not as blind.

I feel you, I have the same problem at times.

Well you guys have inspired me, and I have been really really confused with my own problems.

So anyways this all started a couple months ago, I was being enveloped by my loneliness because I haven't had a relationship since last October which didn't end well. (I'll save the message board my entire love life, I'm 25 I have a very interesting history.) Anyways I met this girl at the bar I hang out with and started talking with her over facebook and the bar. She broke my loneliness and I felt amazing about her and just overall. I thought she liked me and thought I saw signs, it turns out she was just a fake bitch who stopped talking to me all together. So after that little event I started thinking more about this friend I have, I talk to her all the time and we have similar interests. I don't see her all the time but we talk all the time over the phone and I've think I've started to like her and want something more than friendship with her but I don't know if she likes me in that way or thinks about it. I keep going back and forth if I really like her or not and if I should ask her out. I've known her for a couple years now and honestly I was trying to flirt with her when I first met her.

So yeah I'm kind of lost right now.