Tokunation's Relationship Hotline
 

A thread to talk about your relationships and such, and get advice on them as well. Operators are standing by.

That title. :lolol

Huh, Im pretty sure Im gonna be coming to this thread a lot... Hell I have been in the other thread :lol

So guys, no questions now, but tomorrow or closer to saturday, y'all know I will...

We're REALLY doing this, huh?

Ohh the things I could share...but I won't. I'm pretty sure my girlfriend not like sharing infor on the web =P

I'd help, but I really have no idea how to handle a relationship, and my current relationship is a...Unique case :lol

Yea. Closest I have is Candiliria and Moune so.. I'm in no position to give advice to anyone :lol

I can help. I paid attention in 5th-Grade Health—that class has the answer to just about everything worldly.

So is it a good thing to fall for the girl hard even though she wants to be friends, but there is like a 10% percent chance it might actually go somewhere past that? Because that my situation in a nutshell. Lets see, I can barely talk to her because I am awkward as hell, shes not one to talk and because of that shes not one to text. So I have no idea what the hell to talk about. Hopefully that shall change saturday, though Im not sure if we'll end up talking or it'll be awkward silence...

I'm a flirt. If Ai was real beyond Tokunation, she'd kill me :lol

Your biggest problem is that you're too afraid to confront and talk to her. It makes it difficult to establish a relationship beyond "Just friends" when half of the party doesn't realize there's a relationship to be had.

Yea she would. :lolol

Ive tried to talk to her, its just I cant do it at church because we're always surrounded by people, and Im not one to talk like that around others. I'm suprised myself I had the balls to ask her out in the first place, considering I've been thinkin about it for about 2 weeks. I also cant talk to her text wise since she isnt one to do that. (How many times have I said that? Im losing track, I tend to repeat myself). I am still trying to think if this doesnt work out how the hell is seeing her at church not gonna be weird? I also think somethings wrong when I see in the hall in school and I walk right beside her and Im not sure if she doesnt see me, or it just goes back to the "Shes not a talker" thing. :lol

Guys, thanks for making this thread, I joked earlier, but Im pretty sure Ill be on this one a lot! :lol

Sometimes you just have to take that risk, even if it means situations between each other will be awkward.

On the bright side, considering she isn't talkative, and you're too timid to speak with her, it's not like things will change if it goes wrong :p

What do you do if your mother is trying to hook you up with an old friend from elementary school everytime you bump into said friend in the street.

Good point, I feel weird as hell as it is around her, if this doesnt work... Screw it, I know its gonna work, I have a small feeling she likes me, might be my hopes but I dont care, the fact she actually talked to me beyond "hey" tonight when I asked her about the movie saturday was nice.

But when I was asking her, a kid came up, eavesdropping, and asked "yall dating now?" took her about one second to say "no", which of course I said no as well, but crap, she said no that quick? I hate my mind for remembering that. But still, should I just forget it, or I take it as "at the moment" we arent, or she was just saying that to not hear crap from the kid? :lol

I think I'm going to be here alot

You're not really dating her (at least, not yet).

Really, the best thing you can do is talk to her as if she were your friend. How in the world can you take it farther than friendship when you haven't even reached that point? Ask her about her day, tell her a few stories/jokes (and that shouldn't be too difficult—you watch tokusatsu, for crying out loud). Learn about her.

She tries to kill you know. Through her clumsy experimentation and Ai-ness.

Hmm... Question: Is this a "the last time we spoke to each other was fifth grade" friend or a "friends since first grade" friend?

I try to talk to her. Its just, she doesnt talk back. The stories/jokes, I would but aside from a few reference jokes only I would get for Toku, Im not one to make people laugh unless Im around my buddies and we're all makin fun of each other. Im just tryin my damnest to figure out how in the hell to get her to talk to me. Even if she isnt one to talk. Come Saturday Ill find out, even if I have to think hard as hell for subjects to talk about.

So would it be weird to ask her- "So I know you wanna be friends but, how can I be good friends with you when I know little to nothing about you?" :lol

Last time we talked to each other was the 6th grade. Where i live that counts as Elementary school.

None of my friends watch any tokusatsu, but I can still make them laugh by explaining some concepts from the show. For example:

That was me illustrating Kamen Rider Wizard Infinity. It's not as funny as I could make it, but you basically can outline the sheer ridiculousness of the concepts. For instance, Den-O Sword form: a peach demon...

Right now, the best thing you can do is wait and let her open up to you, but maybe nudge her in that direction from time to time. Show her that you care, and don't forget to follow through on the caring.

Im guessing you have tried asking her about her generically as a "so tell me bout yourself" which probably gets met with "there isn't much to tell". Im also guessing she may have a bit of a low self opinion? alsooooo does she have any older brothers? Seems like the type who has older brothers

LOLOLOLOL omg. I died. I think you just made me like Wizard even more.

One of my biggest fears with women, is suggesting there is a relationship to be had. I rarely meet random women, and so if the girl I develop feelings for is a friend or a colleague or whatever I'm scared of what it may do to even hint at something more, and then have to face them every day. I'm not even talking about if we get together, then break up, I just mean if I miss read the signs and then they close to laugh in my face at the suggestion of us dating, and I have to face that embarrassment daily or something.

And considering how badly my relationships have gone in the past, the possible payoff doesn't seem worth the risk.

Ok that is a great way to explain Wizard, and I have done crazy explanations of Kamen Rider before, just not sure Id explain it to her. :lol

Thats about how our conversations go, as Ive said se isnt one to talk. But no, she just has a younger sister.

Exactly my situation right now.

I've been and am in the same boat. Trying to go out with random women is fairly tough because, they're random women. You know nothing about them, so trying to talk before you ask is awkward. Whereas if you try to do the same thing with a friend, it's still awkward, but it's easier to slide into conversation with them.

I've been burnt to man, but you never know until you try. You can not succeed without the risk of failure. And if you're not afraid of failure, man you can go anywhere or do anything.

Just throwing this out there: if you are going on a first date, try something where you have a task to accomplish together, like bowling, or a cooking class, or a crafting workshop, or a walking tour/scavenger hunt. Having something to do besides sitting at a table staring at each other will help break the ice, and get conversation going because you are doing the task together. It's sort of a cliche but it works.

Being friends with a girl you are romantically interested in is very frustrating, but without a basis of friendship, it's hard for a relationship to last. Again, another cliche, but my wife and I are each other's beast friends. We have some things we share an interest in, and some things we do not (the other night she said to me "I just don't get Ultra," heh!), but our relationship grew based on our respect and friendly admiration.

This is not to say that being stuck in the Friend Zone doesn't suck! But XW1n5t0nX (how the heck do you remember that when you log in?) is right -- you cannot succeed without the risk of failure!

And of course there is the old "go out with a group of friends" chestnut.

My last two relationships, including the one I'm in now, have been long distance through the computer. I just get along with people better through an internet connection.

I do.

I'm perma logged in at home. Even if I wasn't, it's just easy to remember for me since I've used it for so many years on so many sites :lol

I guess my name is like the guerrilla marketers from Akibaranger XD

I didn't know Moune was into online relationships. You must have a translation guide handy lol

Nah, translation is easy. Keeping Moune and Candiliria from finding out about each other.. that's the tricky part.

Ill be trying that activity thing if I get to do this again, the hell didnt I think of this before? :lol Does sound like a great idea, lets see.. bowling! Ill try that next time.

You see that is another thing, what do normal people do? A great day for me, is going out for a coffee and a pastry, catching the latest action flick and then coming home to toku and a mound of cereal. I'm pretty sure if I asked a girl to join me on that, she'd say no.

My perfect day is wakin up, gettin ready with some music playin, whatever the hell Im doin the rest of the day, get home, watch whatever show Im currently on, goof off on here, then pass out about 2:00 at night. :lol

Not sure what she'd say to that, but she likes kid movies so I guess action flick is out :p Which reminds me, Smurfs 2 is the one I picked for Saturday, normal movie, and I saw the first one so might as well... :p

Smurfs 2 bombed so hard in my cinema I think we only kept it like a week, Planes hasn't done much better but then Monsters University has stuck around for like three months, Despicable Me 2 does well as well as we put that in the specific children's block.

Dang. Well she said she didnt care, so I figured Smurfs would be alright, if anything Ill ask her when we get there what she wants to see. :lol

I still need to see Despicle me 1, but it doesnt matter to me. :p

*Cough*EquestriaGirls*CoughCough*

Anyway, from what I know of the Smurfs movies (Thank you, Andre), they apparently leave a lot to be desired.

The problem with a movie is that you are not talking... unless the plan is a makeout session; then, by all means!

The problem with movies are that it's pretty hard to figure out what to actually go and see, or if you're home, what to pick.