[Chasing]

calories in calories out

I know it's frustrating af but unless you have a very specific set of health problems that rule will always apply

if your goal is solely to lose weight, don't bother working out if it stresses you out. your diet is the only thing that matters. working out is alright if you're trying to lose weight but if you end up compensating yourself by having bigger meals then you basically stressed yourself out for nothing

when I was fat I never had junk food but that didn't stop me from having meals that were just too big

it took me a long time to realize and accept this, but despite being a foodie I apparently have an incredibly tiny appetite and can get full from the kind of meal you'd serve to a little kid. part of what made it difficult to accept this is the fact I'm asian and it's literally always been ingrained in my mind that I NEED to finish whatever food my parents served me - which is an absolutely absurd mentality to carry into adulthood especially considering I stopped living with my parents a long time ago

honestly the hardest part for me was having to accept that a part of my life is wrong and that for change to happen then I need to commit to NEVER ever going back. this particular routine or thing in my life can NEVER happen again. no binge eating. no "just one more cheat meal and I'll start dieting tomorrow". no impulsively making food at midnight out of boredom. no forcing myself to finish what's on the plate or in the bowl. no more biting off more than I can chew(literally and figuratively). that is part of the commitment you're making when you get into this

not trying to be condescending but I empathize with the frustration all too well. been there multiple times. I know I've said a decent amount as it is but take it from me - I was 250 at my worst and 180 at my best. the journey is absolutely fucking painful. but the neat part is it doesn't take long if you do it right. I did several week long water fasts to get there. some days I do a water fast just for fun. power through the mental and physical pain for just a bit - after that it's smooth sailing because your only responsibility is avoiding the awful habits and routines that led to you being overweight in the first place.