[KRX]

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Originally Posted by KamenRiderOOO

See, I'm more worried about her because of how much she was looking forward to this trip. Just yesterday we figured out how we would all be able to go, and since we've both been working since September and just got free, I was hoping she could finally be able to relax and at least not be stressed out. I'm more worried about her than I am about my chances of getting with her, I want her to smile, even if I'm not the reason.

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Originally Posted by algo448

Perfectly understandable and noble.

Can't you guys make the trip at a later date?

Even if they could, her stress would still need an outlet.

I don't think there's much you can do here, KamenRiderOOO. You could gather together a group of friends, making sure to include her, and do a small activity together, (e.g. watch a movie,) but this is something she needs to deal with her own way.

… But you were already given this advice. Curse my slow typing speed.

[Sentai]

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Originally Posted by KamenRiderOOO

It would have to be a way later date, since everybody who was going to go is going with me to Comikaze on the 2nd, and I don't know if she is.



I really hope she is alright.

She will be. Have faith, my son.

[Suzu]

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Originally Posted by KamenRiderOOO

I'm more worried about her than I am about my chances of getting with her, I want her to smile, even if I'm not the reason.

This... is so cute!


A group activity to cheer her up sounds good to me. Even though closeness might be a bit much for her, I think it's always good to show that you care about her whithout making it awkward somehow.

I'm sure it'll be fine, just don't give up hope. I'll cheer for you! \(^-^)/

[KamenRiderOOO]

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Originally Posted by Sentai

She will be. Have faith, my son.

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Originally Posted by Suzu

This... is so cute!


A group activity to cheer her up sounds good to me. Even though closeness might be a bit much for her, I think it's always good to show that you care about her whithout making it awkward somehow.

I'm sure it'll be fine, just don't give up hope. I'll cheer for you! \(^-^)/

Thanks you two.

So got an update from friends, the trip is still on, but my crush can't go. So when they asked if I would go, I said:

"I can't enjoy myself if she isn't. I know how stressed she was, I was hoping this trip would be her chance to relax and have fun. But if she can't, I don't feel right going."

[uchihabro77]

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Originally Posted by KamenRiderOOO

Thanks you two.

So got an update from friends, the trip is still on, but my crush can't go. So when they asked if I would go, I said:

"I can't enjoy myself if she isn't. I know how stressed she was, I was hoping this trip would be her chance to relax and have fun. But if she can't, I don't feel right going."

Man, you really do care about her if she doesnt feel the same way, hope this works out for you man!

[XW1n5t0nX]

Well, after beginning long thought sessions about my life starting many months back, I believe I have come to a realization I'm sure I've known for a long time. That realization being that...I do believe I may be in love with my best female friend.

I've known her since I was in second grade, and we've stayed pretty good friends over the years. She's been the girl that I've had the healthiest relationship as far as friendship goes with a girl wise, she's the one I trust more then anybody.

I remember in sixth grade, I asked her to a dance yet, and me being my Autistic non social self, just sat in the bleachers talking with friends. She came up to me at one point and asked if I was going to hang out with her, and then asked if I liked her. I forget what my answer was in all honesty.

Plus, we've always kinda have acted as each other's personal therapist and cheerer upper. If I was feeling down, she'd talk to me, and being that she knows I have my oddities, she'd even council me on the spot. Heck, when I was younger and was crying at school once because someone took a drawing I worked really hard on, she pretty much sat down next to me and rubbed my back and shit to help me out.

I think the final nail in the coffin in coming to this realization was when I read 5 Centimeters Per Second, and connected so much with pretty much every character. I stayed up late into the night thinking of what I wanted in a relationship, and she quite honestly kept coming into my mind repeatedly. So it's safe to say that I feel beyond close to her, and have some genuine feelings for her.

Only problem is, to my knowledge, she's still engaged, and if she isn't, is dating somebody else. Plus, I remember one time we were talking about dating and shit. I brought up that there aren't many a girls I would immediately jump into a relationship with, but there were quite a few I'd take out on dates. She asked if she was one and I said yes. When I asked if I'd be somebody she'd date, she said not really.

It's slightly saddening to me that I'm unsure of what he status is, and if I feel comfortable with these feelings. I'd easily consider her my best overall friend. For example, she'll do a shit ton of posts on Facebook that's pretty much always how she wants people to respect her, and how she feels that a lot of the guys she's been with treat her like shit. I read those and I immediately just wanna be like "They may be shit, but I'm not," and stuff along those lines. But I never do.

I'm certain she doesn't know this is how I honestly feel, and if she does, she nevers brings it up. I'm at a point in my life when I'm growing rapidly as a person, and I'm at the point to where even though I'm 18, I reflect on my life to see what I should have done, what I shouldn't have done, mistakes, and everything in between. One thing that I always think about is being in a relationship. I'm the type of person who loves having somebody with me, it helps me get through this shithole called life. And a relationship and love is the ultimate form of that. I just, I just want somebody to be with me. I need someone to walk through life with me. And she is honestly somebody who I'd really want to follow me through this road. But I don't know what to do. I don't wanna stay quiet, but part of me wants to since I'm not sure about what is happening with her. I don't wanna go into a relationship and get hurt again (I've been hurt, no fucking killed in relationships before). I just don't know what the fuck to do. And it's painful not knowing.

What do you guys think? I would really appreciate some outside thoughts.

[KRX]

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Originally Posted by XW1n5t0nX

Well, after beginning long thought sessions about my life starting many months back, I believe I have come to a realization I'm sure I've known for a long time. That realization being that...I do believe I may be in love with my best female friend.

I've known her since I was in second grade, and we've stayed pretty good friends over the years. She's been the girl that I've had the healthiest relationship as far as friendship goes with a girl wise, she's the one I trust more then anybody.

I remember in sixth grade, I asked her to a dance yet, and me being my Autistic non social self, just sat in the bleachers talking with friends. She came up to me at one point and asked if I was going to hang out with her, and then asked if I liked her. I forget what my answer was in all honesty.

Plus, we've always kinda have acted as each other's personal therapist and cheerer upper. If I was feeling down, she'd talk to me, and being that she knows I have my oddities, she'd even council me on the spot. Heck, when I was younger and was crying at school once because someone took a drawing I worked really hard on, she pretty much sat down next to me and rubbed my back and shit to help me out.

I think the final nail in the coffin in coming to this realization was when I read 5 Centimeters Per Second, and connected so much with pretty much every character. I stayed up late into the night thinking of what I wanted in a relationship, and she quite honestly kept coming into my mind repeatedly. So it's safe to say that I feel beyond close to her, and have some genuine feelings for her.

Only problem is, to my knowledge, she's still engaged, and if she isn't, is dating somebody else. Plus, I remember one time we were talking about dating and shit. I brought up that there aren't many a girls I would immediately jump into a relationship with, but there were quite a few I'd take out on dates. She asked if she was one and I said yes. When I asked if I'd be somebody she'd date, she said not really.

It's slightly saddening to me that I'm unsure of what he status is, and if I feel comfortable with these feelings. I'd easily consider her my best overall friend. For example, she'll do a shit ton of posts on Facebook that's pretty much always how she wants people to respect her, and how she feels that a lot of the guys she's been with treat her like shit. I read those and I immediately just wanna be like "They may be shit, but I'm not," and stuff along those lines. But I never do.

I'm certain she doesn't know this is how I honestly feel, and if she does, she nevers brings it up. I'm at a point in my life when I'm growing rapidly as a person, and I'm at the point to where even though I'm 18, I reflect on my life to see what I should have done, what I shouldn't have done, mistakes, and everything in between. One thing that I always think about is being in a relationship. I'm the type of person who loves having somebody with me, it helps me get through this shithole called life. And a relationship and love is the ultimate form of that. I just, I just want somebody to be with me. I need someone to walk through life with me. And she is honestly somebody who I'd really want to follow me through this road. But I don't know what to do. I don't wanna stay quiet, but part of me wants to since I'm not sure about what is happening with her. I don't wanna go into a relationship and get hurt again (I've been hurt, no fucking killed in relationships before). I just don't know what the fuck to do. And it's painful not knowing.

That sounds a lot like the relationship between me and my best friend.

Really, I think the best thing you can do is be open with her. Tell her how you think you feel (the "think" part is important). Here's how I would phrase it:

"I want you to know that I really value our friendship. But I'm beginning to think I value it beyond friendship…"

That is by no means perfect, but it's a base. If she denies you, or asks for time to think, give her some space for a bit. Let her collect her feelings without your influence for a few days.

[KamenRiderOOO]

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Originally Posted by XW1n5t0nX

Well, after beginning long thought sessions about my life starting many months back, I believe I have come to a realization I'm sure I've known for a long time. That realization being that...I do believe I may be in love with my best female friend.

I've known her since I was in second grade, and we've stayed pretty good friends over the years. She's been the girl that I've had the healthiest relationship as far as friendship goes with a girl wise, she's the one I trust more then anybody.

I remember in sixth grade, I asked her to a dance yet, and me being my Autistic non social self, just sat in the bleachers talking with friends. She came up to me at one point and asked if I was going to hang out with her, and then asked if I liked her. I forget what my answer was in all honesty.

Plus, we've always kinda have acted as each other's personal therapist and cheerer upper. If I was feeling down, she'd talk to me, and being that she knows I have my oddities, she'd even council me on the spot. Heck, when I was younger and was crying at school once because someone took a drawing I worked really hard on, she pretty much sat down next to me and rubbed my back and shit to help me out.

I think the final nail in the coffin in coming to this realization was when I read 5 Centimeters Per Second, and connected so much with pretty much every character. I stayed up late into the night thinking of what I wanted in a relationship, and she quite honestly kept coming into my mind repeatedly. So it's safe to say that I feel beyond close to her, and have some genuine feelings for her.

Only problem is, to my knowledge, she's still engaged, and if she isn't, is dating somebody else. Plus, I remember one time we were talking about dating and shit. I brought up that there aren't many a girls I would immediately jump into a relationship with, but there were quite a few I'd take out on dates. She asked if she was one and I said yes. When I asked if I'd be somebody she'd date, she said not really.

It's slightly saddening to me that I'm unsure of what he status is, and if I feel comfortable with these feelings. I'd easily consider her my best overall friend. For example, she'll do a shit ton of posts on Facebook that's pretty much always how she wants people to respect her, and how she feels that a lot of the guys she's been with treat her like shit. I read those and I immediately just wanna be like "They may be shit, but I'm not," and stuff along those lines. But I never do.

I'm certain she doesn't know this is how I honestly feel, and if she does, she nevers brings it up. I'm at a point in my life when I'm growing rapidly as a person, and I'm at the point to where even though I'm 18, I reflect on my life to see what I should have done, what I shouldn't have done, mistakes, and everything in between. One thing that I always think about is being in a relationship. I'm the type of person who loves having somebody with me, it helps me get through this shithole called life. And a relationship and love is the ultimate form of that. I just, I just want somebody to be with me. I need someone to walk through life with me. And she is honestly somebody who I'd really want to follow me through this road. But I don't know what to do. I don't wanna stay quiet, but part of me wants to since I'm not sure about what is happening with her. I don't wanna go into a relationship and get hurt again (I've been hurt, no fucking killed in relationships before). I just don't know what the fuck to do. And it's painful not knowing.

What do you guys think? I would really appreciate some outside thoughts.

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Originally Posted by KRX

That sounds a lot like the relationship between me and my best friend.

Really, I think the best thing you can do is be open with her. Tell her how you think you feel (the "think" part is important). Here's how I would phrase it:

"I want you to know that I really value our friendship. But I'm beginning to think I value it beyond friendship…"

That is by no means perfect, but it's a base. If she denies you, or asks for time to think, give her some space for a bit. Let her collect her feelings without your influence for a few days.

Honestly guys, after the drama me and my best friend went through due to my feelings for her and her desire to stay friends, I'm not gonna go after her any more so that way, I don't lose my best friend. Plus, after we sang Jason Mraz and Colbie Caillat's "Lucky" together and she still didn't react on that, that's why if I am called a girl's best friend, I won't go for her .

Well, besides that, I know who my crush likes...and it isn't me. In fact, it's the guy I knew she would like. But until she acts on those feelings, I'll try my hardest to make her smile in the mean time, cause as long as she's smiling, that makes me happy.

[SideswipePrime]

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Originally Posted by XW1n5t0nX

Well, after beginning long thought sessions about my life starting many months back, I believe I have come to a realization I'm sure I've known for a long time. That realization being that...I do believe I may be in love with my best female friend.

I've known her since I was in second grade, and we've stayed pretty good friends over the years. She's been the girl that I've had the healthiest relationship as far as friendship goes with a girl wise, she's the one I trust more then anybody.

I remember in sixth grade, I asked her to a dance yet, and me being my Autistic non social self, just sat in the bleachers talking with friends. She came up to me at one point and asked if I was going to hang out with her, and then asked if I liked her. I forget what my answer was in all honesty.

Plus, we've always kinda have acted as each other's personal therapist and cheerer upper. If I was feeling down, she'd talk to me, and being that she knows I have my oddities, she'd even council me on the spot. Heck, when I was younger and was crying at school once because someone took a drawing I worked really hard on, she pretty much sat down next to me and rubbed my back and shit to help me out.

I think the final nail in the coffin in coming to this realization was when I read 5 Centimeters Per Second, and connected so much with pretty much every character. I stayed up late into the night thinking of what I wanted in a relationship, and she quite honestly kept coming into my mind repeatedly. So it's safe to say that I feel beyond close to her, and have some genuine feelings for her.

Only problem is, to my knowledge, she's still engaged, and if she isn't, is dating somebody else. Plus, I remember one time we were talking about dating and shit. I brought up that there aren't many a girls I would immediately jump into a relationship with, but there were quite a few I'd take out on dates. She asked if she was one and I said yes. When I asked if I'd be somebody she'd date, she said not really.

It's slightly saddening to me that I'm unsure of what he status is, and if I feel comfortable with these feelings. I'd easily consider her my best overall friend. For example, she'll do a shit ton of posts on Facebook that's pretty much always how she wants people to respect her, and how she feels that a lot of the guys she's been with treat her like shit. I read those and I immediately just wanna be like "They may be shit, but I'm not," and stuff along those lines. But I never do.

I'm certain she doesn't know this is how I honestly feel, and if she does, she nevers brings it up. I'm at a point in my life when I'm growing rapidly as a person, and I'm at the point to where even though I'm 18, I reflect on my life to see what I should have done, what I shouldn't have done, mistakes, and everything in between. One thing that I always think about is being in a relationship. I'm the type of person who loves having somebody with me, it helps me get through this shithole called life. And a relationship and love is the ultimate form of that. I just, I just want somebody to be with me. I need someone to walk through life with me. And she is honestly somebody who I'd really want to follow me through this road. But I don't know what to do. I don't wanna stay quiet, but part of me wants to since I'm not sure about what is happening with her. I don't wanna go into a relationship and get hurt again (I've been hurt, no fucking killed in relationships before). I just don't know what the fuck to do. And it's painful not knowing.

What do you guys think? I would really appreciate some outside thoughts.

Funny, I went through the same thing when I was 18.

I have no advice though. KRX's plan seems solid.

[KyoryuGreen]

I feel sorry for you guys because I went through similar events too and going through something similar now too. My love life has been messed up for the last 6 years and I still get confused. However, I believe good things will come, so just stay positive and I hope everything works out for the best.