[KRX]

Could I get some help on this one?

For the past two years, I've been questioning my feelings towards my best friend. It used to be that I could say with 100% certainty that I only thought of her as a friend.

Then, in 7th Grade, I had a dream.

In this dream, I was in a room that was a bit like a mall, except everything was gray and all of the racks and shelves were empty, forming a labyrinth. There were two other people in this dream: my at-the-time crush, and my best friend (who was only my friend at the time). I was following my ATTC through this labyrinth. However, I made a turn at one point, away from her, and found my best friend walking toward me, smiling.

Upon reflection, I noticed that it was after this event that people began shipping the two of us together. The most famous case of this was my 8th Grade Literacy Block teacher. She was convinced that, at the very least, I had a crush on my best friend. It used to be that I would imagine my ATTC as the person that I would marry. Now, however, my mind defaults to my best friend.

The parts of my day that I look forward to the most are when I can see her. Whenever I'm talking to myself, I always pretend that I'm actually talking to her. I want her to be happy, and I try to seize every opportunity that I can to at least get a chuckle out of her. I know that I can count on her to lift my spirits whenever my family puts me down in the dumps.

And yet, despite all of this, all of the motivations, thoughts, emotiions, actions, despite all of this…

I'm not sure whether I love her as anything more than a friend.

I can understand the reasons for why—my religion won't allow me to pursue anything beyond friendship with her, I'm a chemical target-practice range known as a teenager, and I don't have a basis for what true love is. Nevertheless, I'm asking you what you think. I could really use a little human guidance on this one.

[SideswipePrime]

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Originally Posted by KRX

Could I get some help on this one?

For the past two years, I've been questioning my feelings towards my best friend. It used to be that I could say with 100% certainty that I only thought of her as a friend.

Then, in 7th Grade, I had a dream.

In this dream, I was in a room that was a bit like a mall, except everything was gray and all of the racks and shelves were empty, forming a labyrinth. There were two other people in this dream: my at-the-time crush, and my best friend (who was only my friend at the time). I was following my ATTC through this labyrinth. However, I made a turn at one point, away from her, and found my best friend walking toward me, smiling.

Upon reflection, I noticed that it was after this event that people began shipping the two of us together. The most famous case of this was my 8th Grade Literacy Block teacher. She was convinced that, at the very least, I had a crush on my best friend. It used to be that I would imagine my ATTC as the person that I would marry. Now, however, my mind defaults to my best friend.

The parts of my day that I look forward to the most are when I can see her. Whenever I'm talking to myself, I always pretend that I'm actually talking to her. I want her to be happy, and I try to seize every opportunity that I can to at least get a chuckle out of her. I know that I can count on her to lift my spirits whenever my family puts me down in the dumps.

And yet, despite all of this, all of the motivations, thoughts, emotiions, actions, despite all of this…

I'm not sure whether I love her as anything more than a friend.

I can understand the reasons for why—my religion won't allow me to pursue anything beyond friendship with her, I'm a chemical target-practice range known as a teenager, and I don't have a basis for what true love is. Nevertheless, I'm asking you what you think. I could really use a little human guidance on this one.

There is marriage (but let's not turn this into religious discussion) but I know that isn't an option. In my past experiences, confessing my love was pointless for that very reason. Ok, so they know...I can't act on it (unless I were willing to break my religion's rules, which I'm not), so what's the point? I've gotten to the point in my life, where I'm single, and I'm ok with that. Do I want to get married and have a family? Heck yeah I do! but I'm not ready for that yet. Once I know I'm ready, I'll start looking for a relationship, which would hopefully lead to a happy marriage. I didn't help, did I?

[KyoryuGreen]

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Originally Posted by KRX

Could I get some help on this one?

For the past two years, I've been questioning my feelings towards my best friend. It used to be that I could say with 100% certainty that I only thought of her as a friend.

Then, in 7th Grade, I had a dream.

In this dream, I was in a room that was a bit like a mall, except everything was gray and all of the racks and shelves were empty, forming a labyrinth. There were two other people in this dream: my at-the-time crush, and my best friend (who was only my friend at the time). I was following my ATTC through this labyrinth. However, I made a turn at one point, away from her, and found my best friend walking toward me, smiling.

Upon reflection, I noticed that it was after this event that people began shipping the two of us together. The most famous case of this was my 8th Grade Literacy Block teacher. She was convinced that, at the very least, I had a crush on my best friend. It used to be that I would imagine my ATTC as the person that I would marry. Now, however, my mind defaults to my best friend.

The parts of my day that I look forward to the most are when I can see her. Whenever I'm talking to myself, I always pretend that I'm actually talking to her. I want her to be happy, and I try to seize every opportunity that I can to at least get a chuckle out of her. I know that I can count on her to lift my spirits whenever my family puts me down in the dumps.

And yet, despite all of this, all of the motivations, thoughts, emotiions, actions, despite all of this…

I'm not sure whether I love her as anything more than a friend.

I can understand the reasons for why—my religion won't allow me to pursue anything beyond friendship with her, I'm a chemical target-practice range known as a teenager, and I don't have a basis for what true love is. Nevertheless, I'm asking you what you think. I could really use a little human guidance on this one.

Well why does your religion stop you from pursuing anything beyond friendship? Also honestly figuring out if your in love or in love with the idea of being love are two very different things. The best thing you can do right now is just be her friend and hopefully something will help you figure this out. I know this might not be the best advice but I hope it helps somehow.

[SideswipePrime]

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Originally Posted by KyoryuGreen

Well why does your religion stop you from pursuing anything beyond friendship? Also honestly figuring out if your in love or in love with the idea of being love are two very different things. The best thing you can do right now is just be her friend and hopefully something will help you figure this out. I know this might not be the best advice but I hope it helps somehow.

One just isn't allowed a girlfriend/boyfriend. Marriage is allowed. I'm no expert, and I don't want to get banned for discussing religion, so I won't elaborate.

[KyoryuGreen]

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Originally Posted by SideswipePrime

One just isn't allowed a girlfriend/boyfriend. Marriage is allowed. I'm no expert, and I don't want to get banned for discussing religion, so I won't elaborate.

Ah okay, I won't go into it either, just curious.

[XW1n5t0nX]

Well, I just sent the girl I was talking about a message about my feelings. Disappointment probably incoming.

[KRX]

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Originally Posted by XW1n5t0nX

Well, I just sent the girl I was talking about a message about my feelings. Disappointment probably incoming.

At the very least, you have more guts than I do. I'm so secretive about my feelings, I keep them from myself sometimes.

[XW1n5t0nX]

Who knows what will happen though. When she replied and we talked for abit, she told me how she wants somebody to support her financially, has her standards, and says what happens just depends (she did not say what it depends on). So at the moment, I'm still blind, just not as blind.

[KyoryuGreen]

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Originally Posted by KRX

At the very least, you have more guts than I do. I'm so secretive about my feelings, I keep them from myself sometimes.

I feel you, I have the same problem at times.

[KyoryuGreen]

Well you guys have inspired me, and I have been really really confused with my own problems.

So anyways this all started a couple months ago, I was being enveloped by my loneliness because I haven't had a relationship since last October which didn't end well. (I'll save the message board my entire love life, I'm 25 I have a very interesting history.) Anyways I met this girl at the bar I hang out with and started talking with her over facebook and the bar. She broke my loneliness and I felt amazing about her and just overall. I thought she liked me and thought I saw signs, it turns out she was just a fake bitch who stopped talking to me all together. So after that little event I started thinking more about this friend I have, I talk to her all the time and we have similar interests. I don't see her all the time but we talk all the time over the phone and I've think I've started to like her and want something more than friendship with her but I don't know if she likes me in that way or thinks about it. I keep going back and forth if I really like her or not and if I should ask her out. I've known her for a couple years now and honestly I was trying to flirt with her when I first met her.

So yeah I'm kind of lost right now.