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#391 |
Man with a plan
Join Date: Oct 2012
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Personality have been in the dumps for the last day or two. I will be turning 25 soon and I still feel like any girls are never into to me. With every girl I find, they turn me down, end up being a fake (on online dating websites), back stab me or I just become a friend only. I've experienced nothing but rejection. I've read articles and articles on how to be confident, what women want, and how to be a man. I'm a nice guy and I do like nerdy stuff, but that's how I'm. I don't act odd or strange around other people. I act normal, but yet no one ever wants to like me. I can be emotional than most men, but I'm not a cry baby that cries at everything. People tell me that I'm more aware of my emotions in a realistic way than most people and it's not a bad thing.
Girls just want the bad boys or the gangster type of people. I feel like the people that like the stuff that I like are hard to come by and are already taken. I also have aspergers and I feel like no like me because of it. I talk, think and walk like a normal person. No one could tell if I told them. It's not like I'm like "Hey I have aspergers!!!". I would love to be with someone that understands me, someone has something in common with me and can like me no matter what. Even if they know if I have aspergers that they can like and love me. Sometimes I feel is loneliness, and sometimes I just want cut off from my own humanity. I fear that I will be lone for the rest of my life. I do wonder if it is better off dying young or living alone for the rest of your life. You could say "You will find someone". What if you did find that special someone, but they are always taken by someone else when you get the chance. I feel like that my life is over ![]() I think a lot of people feel the same way we do, some girls included. They probably think "why do all the guys go after mean chicks?" or something like that. |
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#392 |
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Location: Visalia, CA
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Well, the only person I wanna be with is currently studying in Peru. Until she comes back we promised to Skype, but given she's there for studying, and wi-fi for her sucks, not that easy. She's my best friend, I've known her for 7 years and despite all the girls I've crushed on between those times my heart keeps wanting her. She is going to be my +1 to my sister's wedding later this year and I'm hoping to finally ask her out by then, but until now, all I can do is hope she'll finally see me as not just her best friend, but as something more.
Phew, now with that off my chest, the earlier talk reminds me how all my parents' friends want to set me up with their daughters. 2 years ago when I went to another wedding, I saw a girl I hadn't seen in years. She grew up into a lovely young woman and the short amount of conversation I had with her resulted in her mother calling me her son-in-law as we said goodbye to one another ![]() ![]()
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#393 |
Tokusatsu Hero
Join Date: Aug 2013
Location: Maryland
Posts: 6,292
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I feel kinda this way too sometimes. This year I've given up looking for a girlfriend because, what's the point, I'm a senior, going to another state to go to college, I'm not gonna get anything meaningful out of it right now. But I'll start looking again at that time. Maybe someone that important will be there, maybe she won't.
I think a lot of people feel the same way we do, some girls included. They probably think "why do all the guys go after mean chicks?" or something like that.
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#394 |
Veteran Member
Join Date: Mar 2014
Location: CA
Posts: 2,579
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Wow, I never knew this thread existed. Time for me to unload I guess
So I just moved to a new town. At this point it looks like it'll mostly be a summer thing. Anyways, I started off having a thing for this girl that works at Barnes and Noble down the street from my apartment. I'd go in there and try to find something to buy or something I needed help with so I'd have an excuse to talk to her....I never actually talked to her though, but somebody else there that knows my name called out to me by name while she was standing next to him and started talking to me. So she at least knows my name...or did, I haven't been there in at least 2 weeks. Then I just start working a new job and develop a crush on another co-worker. We decide to hang out socially with some other workers after our shift at this place. My apartment is down the street so I say I'll meet her there and run home to change...turns out the place was closed and I had no way to contact anybody so I just went home and watched tv like a bum. Figured I'd figure stuff out the next day and hang out again. Wasn't there. Go in again next day...not there. Finally after 5 days of her not being at work I start asking around and somebody says he thinks she got fired and told me to message her on the website where we get our schedules. So I do that...turns out she was in a big car accident that wrecked her vehicle and sent her to the hospital. She's doing fine and recovering but it was still pretty bad and she's in a lot of pain still. Pretty terrible. We sent a couple of messages back and forth, she apologized for inviting me somewhere that was closed lol, but that's about it. I probably won't see her again for a while. I did manage to finally find her on Facebook though. She's single, but I really think her and some guy are getting "there" but it could just be a close friend. Now...here's the thing. If i'm only in this area for a couple of months...should I pursue either of them? Should I give up on the second girl because 1. we work together 2. I won't see her for a bit and 3. she seems to be into this other guy? We get along pretty well and I detected some flirting when we were last working together, so maybe. Maybe I'll only leave a couple of eggs in her basket and focus on other stuff for now. To be honest though, if all that comes from her is friendship, I'm totally okay with that. I don't know if I even want to date anybody at the moment. What I do want though is somebody to go on dates with...just not actually be in a relationship. Does that make sense? Does that make me a bad person? Then there's the girl at the book store. I haven't even talked to her. She's seen me and like I said she heard me talking to another worker (and she seemed to be paying attention to the conversation). I still don't know anybody around here aside from a few co-workers. Maybe I could go in and say "hey, I'm fairly new and don't know anybody around here." or something to that effect. I don't even know if it's worth pursuing anything because I might not be around here for more than a few months. What I do know though is that there are a lot of cool places for dates but I need a girl to go on a date.
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#395 |
Tokusatsu Hero
Join Date: Aug 2013
Location: Maryland
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I have a slight form of autism. I can think and feel like a normal person and no one can really tell. I have a hard time at studying things, but I can act like a everyday normal human being. I do worry that if a girl found out that I have some type of autism and avoid me. Stuff like this does make feel depress at times.
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#396 |
Tokusatsu Hero
Join Date: Jan 2015
Location: Kentucky
Posts: 6,643
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I have a slight form of autism. I can think and feel like a normal person and no one can really tell. I have a hard time at studying things, but I can act like a everyday normal human being. I do worry that if a girl found out that I have some type of autism and avoid me. Stuff like this does make feel depress at times.
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#397 |
Tokusatsu Hero
Join Date: Aug 2013
Location: Maryland
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I never act creepy around people. I'm also shy when it comes to meeting new people. I can't walk up to people at stores, bars or any big places and be like "Hi". It same goes with going to cons. I try online dating and it never works for me.
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#398 |
Tokusatsu Hero
Join Date: Jan 2015
Location: Kentucky
Posts: 6,643
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I'm the same way. You got my support and understanding bro.
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#399 |
Mighty Morphin
Join Date: Jan 2012
Location: Za Warudo
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I have a slight form of autism. I can think and feel like a normal person and no one can really tell. I have a hard time at studying things, but I can act like a everyday normal human being. I do worry that if a girl found out that I have some type of autism and avoid me. Stuff like this does make feel depress at times.
And it's all cool. A lot of us are shy. I'd much rather stand in a corner than interact with others not because I want to work on my Batman impression, but simply because I'm as shy as a mouse.
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#400 |
Tokusatsu Hero
Join Date: Jan 2015
Location: Kentucky
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Don't worry too much. Autism is getting more clarity in recent years, and people are learning a lot more about it. I don't think she'd try to avoid you if she found out, and seeing how you operate, I doubt she'd ever really learn unless you straight up tell her~
And it's all cool. A lot of us are shy. I'd much rather stand in a corner than interact with others not because I want to work on my Batman impression, but simply because I'm as shy as a mouse. ![]() But yeah, I'm nervous about meeting people in large groups too. I too tend to stand in the corners of the room or off to the side and watch everyone else mingle.
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